Show me Your Friends and I Will Show you Your Future.

Proverbs 13:20 says, “Walk with the wise and become wise, for a companion of fools suffers harm.”

There is a movie coming out called “Best Man”. The basic premise is that most men do not have a friend close enough to be considered their ‘best man’ so someone creates a business out of it. Isn’t there some truth to that? Don’t we all need at least one close friend to do life with?

Chip Ingram, one of my favorite pastors to listen to, argues that we need three different types of people in our lives:

A Paul, a Barnabas, and a Timothy.

God’s word is clear about the company that we keep…

1 Corinthians 15:33 says, “Do not be misled: “Bad company corrupts good character.”

Hebrews 13:7 says, “Remember your leaders, who spoke the word of God to you. Consider the outcome of their way of life and imitate their faith.”

Proverbs 27:17 says, “As iron sharpens iron, so one person sharpens another.”

The very fact that we all have baggage and a sinful background demands that we ought to pursue great people. No one had perfect parents. Everyone has spiritual wounds, thus, we must choose to deal with those wounds constructively. God uses people to heal and restore our lives.

How to pursue great people

One of the best ways to pursue great people is to look in the rear view mirror of your life. Who are four people that have most positively impacted your life? Who would be on the Mount Rushmore of your life? These people have shaped who we are, they have helped us through life, and they have been our spiritual rocks.

Now, lets look out the wind shield.

We all need three types of people: A Paul to learn from, a Barnabas to share life with, and a Timothy to pour into.

A Paul figure in our lives is equitable to a mentor or teacher. These people change as we go through different seasons of our lives. I have had the privilege to have some longstanding “Paul” figures in my life who have helped me grow dramatically.

A Barnabas is your ‘best man’. Someone who you go through life with. Barnabas traveled with Paul while he was on his missionary journeys in the book of Acts. We need someone to share in our victories and defeats.

A Timothy figure is someone whom you are helping grow. Again, these people are seldom in our lives for long periods of time. You never truly know the impact that you will have on those that you invest in.


People are incredible. We have so much to give, and so much to learn from one another. We ought to actively seek out a Paul, Barnabas and Timothy figure in our lives. The Lord will use them in incredible ways to help us grow in our walk with God. Don’t be a stagnant Christian.

Who are you learning from?

Who are you doing life with?

Who are you investing in?


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